Soulmates – Does Everyone Have One?Everyone wants to feel love. We want to be in love and to know that we are loved by someone.
We dream about it. Sometimes secretly when we’re alone at night. Fantasizing about the perfect partner. A person who “gets” us.
But a lot of times finding your Soulmate can seem to be just out of reach.
And after months, maybe even years of searching for our Soulmate we get frustrated, jaded and depressed. And in our loneliness we start to ask ourselves, “Does everyone have a soulmate?”
Or even worse, we start to believe that there’s no one special out there in the world for us.
Richard Webster, the author of Soulmates: Understanding Relationships Across Time gave us this advice about whether or not everyone has a Soulmate, “I believe that there is a special person for everyone. The perfect person for you is either already with you, or is searching for you. The hard part is finding that special person. However you CAN do it. The two of you have been together countless times before.”
Sometimes it may seem that there’s no one out there for us. That we’re destined to be the “cat lady” whose only companions are her furry friends. But this type of thinking is really a chance for us to find out what’s really going on deep within our hearts and minds.
And it may be tough right now. Lonely. Depressing even. But based on what I’ve seen in my life and in the lives of the people around me, there IS a Soulmate out there for each of us. More than one actually.
The world is just too big.
There’s just too many people looking for love to believe that you’re destined to be single for the rest of your life.
It just seems statistically improbable.
That with all the people in the world, with everyone who’s buzzing around on facebook, to all the dating sites that are popping up, and all the singles mixers going on, and all the meetups happening all over the world right now, the chances of meeting your Soulmate seem to be better than ever.
Helen Fisher of Rutgers University and a world renowned expert on love said we are indeed “wired to find love” and that finding your soulmate is not only possible, it’s inevitable.
It’s going to happen. Everyone DOES have a Soulmate. There’s hundreds of people floating around right now that could be “the one.”
It doesn’t matter how old you are, if you have kids from a previous marriage, or if you’re going to the gym every other day. There IS someone out there in the world that would move mountains to be with you.
So stop thinking and asking yourself, “Does everyone have a Soulmate?”
And change that thought to, “I can’t wait to meet my Soulmate.”
When you’re ready the universe will conspire in your favor and draw them into your life. Until that happens get out there, have some fun, go on some dates, and trust that everything will happen when it happens.
And remember, your Soulmate is looking for you too!
Ian – The Soulmate Scientist
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3 Comments
3:34 pm
Ray
MY RIB.
I have wondered what the truth is about the soulmate, and in my search I found two theories.
Edgar Cayce Theory:
Your soulmate is whomever you need at the present moment for mutual spiritual development.
The there is the traditional theory that your soulmate is your other half, divided at the time of creation, and that you will for ever search for your soulmate until re-united again.
For years I entertained both theories and wondered what was the truth. had three marriages, and am single again.
I was born in South Africa, but always had a love for Hawaiian music, played Hawaiian guitar and dreamed about Hula dancers. When I was 28 (1974)I had a feeling that The One was in Hawaii, I went there, but sadly could not find her.
Eight years ago, (2003) and I was attending a seminar, a life changing event occurred. The most incredible beautiful blonde woman walked in, with a limp, and I immediately went to her and told her I had a cure for arthritis.
During lunchtime she went to a table, did not sit down and stood upright, looking at me. Swallowing hard, I went up to her pulled her chair out, and we sat next to each other. After the seminar I offered to take her to the airport, she cancelled her cab, and in the car she softly touched my hand. She gave me her card with her e-mail address on, it. Although she is heavily committed, husband, family, children, grand children, we have had almost daily e-mail exchange for 8 years now. She has two homes, one on the west coast, and yes….. here it is…in Hawaii. In the seventies she yes!… she danced Hula in shows for several hotels. She sent me a video of her dancing the hula, and watching her movement, as opposed to the mechanical movements of the other dancers around her she seemed to sway in tune with the entire universe. (See Sufi Dancers)
In analyzing the two theories it seems that we can have relationships with many people that cause us to develop spiritually, even our enemies! They can teach us tolerance and forgiveness. So Cayce’s theory does not seem to hold water.
Nevertheless for years I entertained both theories.
All of a sudden a few weeks ago I got to thinking about them again, and then in a flash of realization, the passage in the bible came to me where Adam was created. He was whole, neither man nor woman. Then God created a companion for him from one of his ribs.
Another flash of realization occurred and I realized this was the bible authors way of telling us yes, we all are two half’s,originally separated, you and I have another half which is part of us and this person makes us whole. So now I truly believe we each have a Soulmate there is only The One.
We will be united again it is inevitable, as we spiritually grow and learn, we converge.
11:12 pm
Ian Paul Marshall
Cayce has a pretty interesting theory. My only concern about the other version is that you’re ultimate happiness is dependent on someone else. And that you are not whole and complete just as you are. Seems to be that a concept like that breeds dependency. Not a good place to be in my books.
5:17 pm
eva
i dont think there is any soul mate for me …. I used to believe in soul mate theory and i had been a joke among every one i know … World is a cruel place and men cant be angels….